✨ Sovereign Matriarchs✨
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How to create the genuinely blissful motherhood lifestyle you’d dreamed about–fueled by alignment, health and freedom—WITHOUT faking it til you make it, toxic positivity, or ‘waiting til they get older’…
…and doing it all in sisterhood!
Being a mom who’s passionate about mothering in 2024 can often feel like a cruel joke…
The practical, physical demands of mothering without the village’s support, or even recognition, can feel like death by 1000 papercuts. Not that we don’t enjoy mothering but we’re pretty much treated like invisible, needless machines—and that makes it so much harder than it needs to be.
The modern set up for mothering is incredibly isolating and lonely. Most of our peers opted for a career-focus, whether they chose to enter into motherhood, or not. Our family members, both from family of origin and extended family, are also busy developing their careers. Perpetual strangers at the library about sums up our ‘village’ most weeks.
The emotionally-challenging parts of motherhood are glossed over, suppressed and minimized. The entry into motherhood is a significant and life-altering event but it’s treated with as much recognition and reverence as a colonoscopy.
The psychological work of mothering children, especially with little to no village support, can be mentally draining, intellectually under-stimulating and relentless. The standard approach to this problem is just to ‘wait until the kids are older’ and then you can engage in age-appropriate intellectual activities (that’s insane + will make you insane).
Modern parenting norms aka social expectations about how you’re supposed to parent your child are anxiety-inducing, cortisol-producing, full-blown helicopter-parent style mania (if you’re asking me).
On top of the work of mothering in the modern world being uniquely challenging, we’re also faced with social expectations that tell us that, since we’re home not paying income taxes, we also need to pick up ALL of the domestic slack.
And perhaps the WORST part of it all, is that when we finally identify these specific issues that are actually universally felt by devoted mothers all across the modern world, we have a notoriously difficult time convincing the non-fulltime-mothers (vast majority that, a lot of times, include our own loved ones) that we are worthy of large-scale, significant support/change/evolution…
How much of that explains your experience of motherhood so far?
2018 me: same, girl, same…
Not only do we have the boomers scowling at us 24/7 for not beating our kids but Gen X rips us one for not detaching from them as often as they’d like us to. Fellow Millennial parents are judgmental about everything and Zoomers have pretty much decided that they hate kids and won’t be having any…
Okay, it’s kinda funny but it’s also FELT REALITY.
The society we live in, our community, it has a great effect on us. This is called external pressure and it’s one of our generation’s unique struggles. You see, in years past, devoted mothers would’ve had many supports—naturally built into daily life—to rely upon when she inevitably needed a break. With the sociocultural shift towards young people–men and women– focusing on career development and bolstering the economy, that leaves us in the unpopular minority.
Only 28% of moms choose to stay home w/ their young kids and that number dwindles as the kids grow older...
Your friends from the past don’t want to mother with you, even the ones that have kids, they want to compartmentalize and detach from mothering instead of embracing it and flowing with it. Instead of embodying motherhood in all aspects of their life like you want to, they want to run far away from it, engage with it minimally and avoid it. It’s truly heartbreaking.
So, for moms who choose to prioritize mothering without outsourcing their roles, the use of state daycare or an expiration date in mind, we’re living at odds with our peers, previous generations and the youngest generation of adults.
Essentially it feels like we’re the ones going ‘backwards’ in time and like they’re ‘making progress’ (make it make sense).
Everything that makes up this era of humanity is leaving a gaping wide hole in our lives: the sisterhood of like-valued women is missing.
That’s exactly why I created the Sovereign Matriarchs Membership for you.
Introducing…
The Sovereign Matriarch Membership
ENTER INTO A CURATED GROUP OF LIKE-VALUED SISTERS:
Feel seen, held and witnessed by women that care about the same things that you do and experience this on a regular basis. Of course you’re not the only one going through that thing, most of us have or will and we’re here to support you.
Fulfill the natural need to relate to and share with your sisters.
I don’t want just anyone in this membership. The women that join are committed, objective, vetted moms who have these specific values in common:
as natural parenting as possible (not perfection),
respecting children just like adults (& all other age groups, developmental levels) are respected
believing that kids are their parents' responsibility (not the governments’)
Creator-revering
non-dogmatic or judgmental but can ALSO withstand an intellectual challenge
mom is her kids’ expert, not outside authority
men and women are distinct and should obey the confines of biological design
No more pouring your heart out to fake-natural parenting groups or generic, God-knows-who’s-in-there mom groups.
Moms are far from all the same and instead of creating groups based on interests, I believe that the most potent way to be held is by trusting in women that have the same values as you do.
A collective of women that’re equally devoted to our mission and doing it WITH us, not watching us do it.
ENJOY HAVING A BIG SIS LIFELINE ALWAYS AVAILABLE TO YOU:
You’ll feel held (by ME specifically) like you’ve got a big sister who has your back and who can check in on you.
You will start realizing what your blocks are to those annoying, persistent problems that you can’t seem to ever shake
Be held accountable for taking radical responsibility for your part in the things you don’t like in your circumstances right now.
Get 1-1 access to me. I am invested in the transformation you want. I give you access to me through 1-1 email and voice note, deep dive group calls, homework feedback and reflection.
One of the most valuable counselor-training techniques I’d learned was active listening and holding the mirror up. Reflecting back to you all that you’ve shown to me is distinctly powerful.
FINALLY JOIN A GROUP FOCUSED ON ROOT-CAUSE TRANSFORMATION
Start feeling confident, brave and re-motivated to address old issues.
Shift your perspective, open your mind and uncover deep-seated patterns that are holding you back w/ many materials like journal prompts, sharing with women, addressing issues on the call, workbooks and more.
GET READY FOR A HEALTHY CHALLENGE
We focus on radical responsibility and accountability without discounting external forces.
The work is all geared towards getting you to make the necessary changes to get where you want to go.
Support THRU addressing your challenges–even the ugly ones–not going politely around them. You’re safe here.
Feel capable!…like you finally know what you’re doing in motherhood. You’ll experience more decisiveness when you’re making decisions and you’ll feel good about sticking firmly to them
You’ll start to feel like you’re more attuned to your intuition. The daily ebb and flow of life starts to feel relaxing and exciting all at once.
TRUST yourself deeply and stop second-guessing your every thought, emotion and decision
Enjoy self-growth that’s not just classes and ideas but collective-energy-fueled action-taking
This membership is NOT a continuous content pump, it’s a community to DO the work together.
This is the sister circle that you can come to in order to alchemize your pain, make meaning out of each experience, learn from mistakes, dissect and reconfigure family dynamics that aren't working, figure out what kind of creative projects to work on this or next season, talk about your dreams and inspirations in community, conspire as to how to revolutionize motherhood for the next generation, etc.
Jocelyne
“Bianca's course has been nothing but a blessing. I feel so energized and the exercises plus strategies that she presents are just transformative. If you're thinking about doing this... do it! It will change your life!”
Meet the Founder…
I’m Bianca Saeed, a 100% of the time stay-at-home mom & 100% of the time stay-at-home mom rights activist.
I spend lots of time coaching women online & in my life to:
—feel comfortable enough (AND brave enough) to speak up for their needs within their family
—transform how they think of stay-at-home motherhood, so that they can make different decisions about what they deserve (it’s a career that requires support & professional development—these aren’t negotiable)
—how to build up their support system from the inside, out (that means it starts w/ how you support yourself, first!)
If these sound like things you want, take the first step in your journey, by joining us in Sovereign Matriarchs today!
What would it feel like, if you were able to:
• Have the clarity to realize which boundaries you need now and why
• Have the courage, support and articulation to set those boundaries w/ respect, kindness and firmness
•See past the monotonous tasks of the day-to-day and stay connected to that long-term vision of family life (allowing you to actually feel present & enjoy it!)
• Feel energized so that you can go do adventurous things w/ the kids but keep that inspiration in pursuit of your own passions
• Actually follow through on all the self-care healing activities that you know you need to do…but never do
YOU’VE TRIED IT THIS WAY.
⛔ Shutting up & being grateful for everything you have.
‘It’s a luxury and privilege to stay home w/ your kids’ they say…(Yeah and it’s also a major test of fortitude, determination and resilience which is a contribution to society!) Hiding your pain because you think it’s not justified will only kill your health in the end and make you resent the very people that you’re dedicated to caring for. And it makes others treat you just as crappy as you treat yourself…It’s no good. There is such a thing as being so, incredibly grateful AND suffering immensely.
⛔Trying to be positive and surround yourself w/ positive people.
You’ve tried to ignore the negative and just speak positive words. You believed that this would make your reality more beautiful and bring you positive results, when in reality it just meant that you’re smiling 24/7 like a lunatic, pretending that no sleep doesn’t bother you and settling for never having time to yourself because you’re always looking on the bright side…This makes you ineffective and a bit…delusional. It’s really dangerous, actually. (Don’t worry, I’ve been there).
⛔Considering going back to work.
You’ve been so unhappy at times, that you’re at a loss. Yes, you want to be a stay-at-home mom but you don’t wanna lose your sanity in the process. You know that you’ll be no good to anyone if you’ve lose your marbles and you’re angry all the time…But you really don’t wanna go back to work, you just don’t know what else to do to fix this problem.
⛔Working part-time.
If you weren’t able to fathom going back to full-time work, then you’ve considered getting a part-time job. This is the solution to you feeling lackluster in motherhood, like you’re living the same day over and over again. The problem w/ this is that you still have the same amount of responsibilities in the home, you miss the kids, you feel more tired and you just feel spread thin now. It’s not the solution you were looking for…
⛔Accepting that stay-at-home motherhood in 2024 is simply depressing by nature.
You’ve settled and just tried to accept your reality. ‘This is simply parenthood’ as your parents might say (parents who didn’t parent in 2023, I might add—things are different!). But this just made you feel detached and unfeeling, numb almost. No, this is definitely not the way to go…
There IS another way.
What’s the secret?
Sovereign Matriarchs is my personal motherhood philosophy and methodology combined w/ a curated sisterhood of like-valued women.
Together, we walk through the 5 mandatory shifts to make before you can experience motherhood as your highest self.
What I share in Sovereign Matriarchs is unlike anything I’ve ever run before and includes the exact steps that I took to go from overwhelmed, bored and irritated to euphoric, light-hearted and confident in all decisions I make along the way.
Sovereign Matriarchs isn’t just a static course or another facebook group to join…it’s the most impactful, focused membership for devoted moms out there.
Sovereign Matriarchs is the community plus curriculum AND homework feedback combo that packs a powerful punch. No other stay-at-home mom course on the market combines: a God-centered life + being a graciously assertive woman + natural/slow living + female-biology-centered-motherhood + unapologetic self-care on autopilot.
You can, like me, achieve your dream of staying home w/ the kids, guilt-free and experiencing record-level heights of happiness…all during these years in which your primary job is to take care of those kids (something most women allow to become cumbersome)…
What’s included:
The Motherhood Realigned Course + Method
This method includes the 5 most impactful strategies for stay-at-home moms to adapt that will bring you maximum peace, energy and joy.
The 5 strategies (sneak peak!):
1) Become an Essentialist: create space in your head, heart & home. No more decluttering your physical space just to continue feeling overwhelmed w/ feelings, thoughts, ideas, stifled dreams, etc.
2) Become a 1st Class Citizen in Your Home: naturally motivate you to take excellent care of your family's greatest asset: YOU. No more random, guilt-fueled, aimless 'self-care'. You'll figure out what your specific blueprint for self-care is & learn how to automate them so that you'll never back out again!
3) Practice Relentless & Gracious Assertiveness: build up the skill of being assertive. This will allow you to openly express your emotions, thoughts, opinions but mostly importantly, it'll teach you how to communicate your needs in a respectful, kind but genuine way. This is key to feeling like you're empowered in your life & like you have relationships that are mutually beneficial (not just you giving & never receiving). This is an art.
4) Forget Culture, Follow God: untether you from society's expectations & empower you to live for an audience of One: God. You can do all the self-work in the world, but if you don't address the social conditioning that was ingrained in you since birth, you'll be missing a large piece to the puzzle that'll continue to block your potential. This step is all about de-conditioning from those social expectations and redesigning your own expectations of yourself.
5) Align w/ Nature, God’s Rx: deepen your trust in God's prescription (nature) for a healthy, vibrant life. This step focuses on realignment w/ feminine energy, slow living and natural lifestyle principles. As an mother, there is a protocol for how to live in a way that maximizes potential and minimizes strife.
2. A Workbook for All Five Sections:
Learn the lessons but then apply them to your unique life. This is where the rubber really meets the road.
Included workbooks (usually $17 each):
Space Creation: Where to Start
Untangling Your Belief Systems
Where Do You Need to Be More Assertive?
Discover Your Unique Self-Preservation Blueprint
Infusing Your Life w/ As Much Nature As Possible
3. Workbook Submissions:
The ability to submit your completed workbook—this is accountability to complete it but it's also an opportunity for me to really see you, provide reflection/feedback/questions and support you the way that you want to be supported.
4. Send & Receive 1-1 Voice Notes + Emails w/ Bianca:
If you don't wanna share in the group, you have the ability to hit me up one-on-one to discuss whatever's on your mind.
5. Biweekly Deep Dive Discussions:
Twice a month we will meet on camera to be together, hear one another and speak.
6. Private Community:
Private fb group for togetherness, networking, asking questions, sharing pictures, accountability and support.
7. Seasonal Surprises:
I'm always getting random inspiring ideas, and as a member of Sovereign Matriarchs, you'll always be first to know.
Purchase & Payment Ease
Investing in the membership is simple.
Click the level of time-commitment button below that you wish to commit to. You’ll be taken to the Thrivecart payment page, where you’ll enter your details.
Your options to pay with include: credit card, paypal, klarna, affirm and afterpay.
After you successfully complete your purchase, you’ll get an email with the subject line: Welcome to the Sovereign Matriarch Movement!
Your access to the portal, fb group and my contact info will be made available in this email. :)
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Amanda N.
“Everyone tells you how hard it is to become a mom but no one really tells you how to deal with the overwhelm and the fact that you are now solely responsible for little humans. I was in a dark place when I found this course and to be honest, it was a life saver. I find myself feeling more confident, more clear, and more focused on myself while also taking care of my little ones. I cannot sing its praises enough!”
3 Bonus Masterclasses
1/ Take Back Your Mornings to Set the Right Tone for Your Day & Life masterclass ($47 value):
If you’ve ever felt like things in your home are chaos from the moment you wake up, then I got you. In this masterclass, I’ll teach you how to set the tone for the day by reclaiming & recommitting to your morning ritual. (workbook included)
2/ Casting Your Vision of Motherhood masterclass ($44 value):
Have you ever felt like you’re lost within motherhood and you’re just going through the motions? Like, you’re just reacting to things being thrown at you since it’s all happening so fast, all at once? Sit down and take action on the ideas in this masterclass to get reoriented towards your North Star.
3/ Surrendering to Female Biology masterclass ($44 value):
Living in clown world, it’s easy to get disillusioned from our significant and uniquely powerful nature as a woman. Get re-inspired as you watch this masterclass and remind yourself of all the ways that you’re singularly and specifically potent medicine for your children, as their female mother.
Prioritizes the act of mothering above any other job or chore
isn’t willing to let your individual self get lost within the hard, daily labor that mothering is
is hell-bent on being their kids' primary influence and caretaker BUT who expect proper support + care of themselves, too
you KNOW that mothering is a spiritual journey that must be surrendered to and flowed with BUT who also know that society's expectations/standards for modern moms are all out of wack (we will not comply)
you refuse to bow down to this polarization of parenting that either punishes the child for being a child OR lets the child have all of the control (lest he get upset)
you’re devoted to your marriage but don't like how roles/duties have been divided up and want change!
believes that their children are mirrors and teachers but ALSO that they're their kids' guides, protectors and leaders
You’re determined to make their lifestyle enjoyable, healthy, fulfilling and existentially-productive for every member of the family
Is determined to take ownership of your life and live on your terms
Whose primary focus in life is to do the right thing and you’re accountability is with God alone
Is sick of just gritting your teeth and bearing down—you’re ready for ease, spaciousness and peace
THIS IS RIGHT FOR YOU, IF YOU’RE A MOTHER WHO:
Audrie F.
“I was blown away by the Motherhood Realigned course! For so long I was feeling so discouraged being a SAHM and feeling a lack of purpose. I'm so grateful I found this course because it helped light a fire in my soul that has taken me and my family to another level. Thank you Bianca, not only for providing a community for mothers like me, but for helping me see & find repurpose as a mother and a woman!”
FAQs
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I’ve also taken so many mom courses (which does give me an edge, not gonna lie)! BUT, this course is designed to pop into your email inbox—disrupting whatever pre-programmed thoughts you have going on during the day—to remind you to take action on that which is important to you…through humor, deep connection to a sister, and values/worldview-specific strategies (meaning God-centered, slow-living-valuing, take no shit but also loving mama bear vibes).
It makes a world of a difference when you take a ‘mom course’ that’s created by someone who actually gets you and shares the same values as you!
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Right now! Click on any of the orange buttons on this page to purchase a Sovereign Matriarchs membership for only $44/mo and you’ll be set up w/ your login automatically.
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Only $44/month as a founding member!
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Absolutely no refunds. This work is for women who are consciously choosing to commit to this group (for whatever time period they choose). This is incredibly valuable and I expect each member take it seriously. Refunds indicate regret or indecision and none of that is welcome here. Please take the necessary time to make your decision and whatever that may be, go all in with it. (The lowest commitment is 1 month @ $44).
